Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Pick your teeth!

It's one of the greatest sins and yet it's something we do day after day. Sometimes we don't even realise it. You're just chatting away with your friends and you begin to talk about somebody else. Our whole lives are based around 'Home and Away' and 'Neighbours', soaps based on lying, backbiting etc. But look at what the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said about it:

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was sitting with his companions one day and one of them was speaking badly about someone who wasn't there. As the man got up to leave the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said to him: 'Pick Your Teeth!' 'But I haven't eaten anything,' the man protested. 'No,' the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said 'You have eaten the flesh of your dead brother'.

As Allah tells us in the Qur'an: 'Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? No, you would hate it.' [surah al-Hujurat; 49:12]


But What If It's True?!

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) told us:

'Backbiting is to say something about someone they wouldn't like said about them....If what bad you said about them is true, then you have backbited and if it is false then you have slandered them.'

[Muslim]

If you're still not convinced of how big a sin backbiting really is, then look at the punishment Allah has in store for the backbiters. The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) described:

'On the night of mirage I passed by some people who had metal hooks in their hands and were clawing at their faces and their necks with them. I asked Gabriel 'Who were these people?' He said 'These are the people who eat the flesh of human beings and disgrace them'

[Abu Dawud].

This is how big a sin backbiting is looked upon and yet we continue to backbite without a second thought. Next time you lie, talk about somebody, remember Allah (subhanahu wa Ta'ala) and the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) and put them in front of you before you speak.


Just having a Laugh!

May be we think it's all right to take the mick out of someone so long as we say it to their face. We'll make fun of the way someone talks, walks, or how they look. Allah Ta'ala warns us against such behaviour:

'O you who believe. Let not some men laugh at others, it may be the that they are better than you. Nor let some women laugh at others it may be that they are better than you. Nor abuse each other, nor be sarcastic to each other by using offensive nicknames...'

[surah al-Hujurat; 49:11]

Don't forget that Allah made us the way we are, so how can you even think of making fun of his creation?


Cool to Swear?

Listen to yourself and to your friends speaking one day - nearly every sentence will have a swear word in it, thinking it's cool and macho to swear, copying the idols of TV and the cinema. Is it really 'cool' to swear? The Hellfire is far from being cool. People will wish they were cool then rather than being cool in this world. Remember! That every time you speak, an angel writes down what you say, and that one day you will have to answer for every single word you ever uttered. So if you swear at someone then it's written down as a sin against you. You're only harming yourself. The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said that:

'Abusing a Muslim is a sin and fighting with him is disbelief.'

[Muslim].


'But sometimes you just have to swear'!

We've all been there - you're just so angry with somebody and the only way you can express yourself, is to swear at them. The solution? ...

Don't get angry in the first place.

A man came to the Prophet (S) one day and said 'Advise me'. The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said 'Don't become angry. Don't become angry. Don't become angry'.... 'When one of you gets angry while he is standing up, he should sit down. Then anger will leave him, and if not then he should lie down'

[Ahmad]

So let us follow this beautiful advice of the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) and remember that anger is from Shaytaan. If someone angers you or swears at you, then don't harm yourself by doing the same but respond in a better way as Allah says in the Qur'an:

'Repel evil with what is better. Then he who was your worst enemy will become your best friend.'

[surah 41:33]


'It wasn't me. Honest.'

How often do we say such a phrase or say that 'I was only joking'. We treat lies as being trivial. However we are told that:

'Allah's messenger did not hate anything more than lying'

[Ahmed].

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was once asked 'Can a Muslim be a coward?' He (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied 'Yes.' and then asked 'Can a Muslim be a miser?' and the reply was 'Yes.' The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was then asked 'Can a Muslim be a liar?' The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied 'NO! A Muslim can never be a liar'. Furthermore, he said 'Truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to paradise...Lying leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the hellfire.'

[sahih al-Bukhari].

As we know that one lie leads to another ten lies which lead to bad actions. Remember you can lie and think that you have got away with it but on the day of Judgement your hands, tongue and feet will bear testimony against you and tell the truth.


But it's only words!

One day one of the companions asked the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) 'O Messenger of Allah. Will we be called to account for what we say?' He replied 'May you be lost to your mother - people will be thrown, faces down into the hellfire, only on account to what their tongues said.'

[at-Tirmidhi].

Indeed the tongue controls the rest of your body. A well-controlled tongue will keep us within Islam but a loose tongue will destroy us. The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said:

'When a person gets up in the morning, all the parts of his body make a plea to his tongue saying; 'Fear Allah regarding us, because we follow you. If you are right then we shall also be right , and if you are wrong then we shall also be wrong.' [at-Tirmidhi]

Instead of swearing, lying and engaging in useless talk we can use our tongues in better ways and what better than telling people about Islam. Allah says:

'Who is better in speech than one who calls (men) to Allah and works righteousness and says I am one of those who bow down in Islam'

[surah 41:33]

Your tongue can save you as well!.Indeed if you control your tongue and speak good then paradise can be yours. The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said:

'Whoever can guarantee me two things I can guarantee them Paradise.' The companions asked 'What, O Messenger of Allah?' He replied 'What is between his jaws (his tongue) and his legs (private parts).'

[sahih al-Bukhari]

I've lied and backbited, sworn and made fun of others. I must be doomed I must be going to hell!'

NO! Allah tells us in the Qur'an:

'O my servants who have wronged themselves, never despair of the mercy of Allah for truly he forgives all sins. He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.'

[surah 39:53]

So if you really repent and turn back to Allah and promise not to commit the sin again then truly Allah's promise is true and He will forgive you. If you've backbitten someone - go and tell the person whom you backbited and apologise sincerely and ask them to forgive you. But if you think that the situation will get worse then turn back to Allah sincerely begging for his forgiveness then to make up for what you said, go around and talk good of him.


The Best Example

As we know that the best person to have ever lived is the Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) and he is the best of example for mankind. If we follow him we can never go wrong. Ayesha (R) the Prophet's wife described the Prophet's conduct as follows:

'He was neither a obscene talker nor a user of bad words. He did not shout nor did he repay evil with evil. He used to forgive people and overlook their sins.'

[at-Tirmidhi]

Final Advice: A beautiful saying of the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) that will ensure the protection of our tongue. The Messenger of Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) said:

'Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, let him either speak good or keep silent'

Bukhari - Volume 8, Book 81, Number 772:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

A drunk was brought to the Prophet and he ordered him to be beaten (lashed). Some of us beat him with our hands, and some with their shoes, and some with their garments (twisted in the form of a lash). When that drunk had left, a man said, 'What is wrong with him? May Allah disgrace him!' Allah's Apostle said, 'Do not help Satan against your (Muslim) brother.'

Allah - the Most High - said:

'The Believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a fear in the hearts, and when His Verses are recited to them, it increases their eemaan (faith), and they put their trust and rely upon Allah alone. They are those who perform the Prayer and spend out of that which We have given them, they are Believers in truth. For them are grades of dignity and nobility with their Lord, and also forgiveness and generous provisions.' [Soorah al-Anfaal 8:2-4]

[http://www.lutonmuslims.co.uk/pickurteeth.htm]